What We Give Out, We Get Back.

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Wednesday September 16, 2009

Good day everyone and welcome to the midweek pointy of this beautiful late summer week.

Heads up folks on Twitter, if you're enjoying our Daily Reader and you're a Twitter subscriber, follow us at @WealthyAttitude as we are planning some really fun stuff for the Fall season.

Today we are going to one of our very favorite people. Louise Hay has most likely contributed more to the "personal development" movement than any other living person. We honor her today as she firmly makes clear that.....

What We Give Out, We Get Back
by Louise Hay

Life Is Really Very Simple. What We Give Out, We Get Back

What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us. I believe that everyone, myself included, is responsible for everything in our lives, the best and the worst. Every thought we think is creating our future. Each one of us creates our experiences by our thoughts and our feelings. The thoughts we think and the words we speak create our experiences.

We create the situations, and then we give our power away by blaming the other person for our frustration. No person, no place, and no thing has any power over us, for “we” are the only thinkers in it. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives.

Which of these statements sounds like you?
“People are out to get me.”
“Everyone is always helpful.”
Each one of these beliefs will create quite different experiences.

What we believe about ourselves and about life becomes true for us.

The Universe Totally Supports Us in Every Thought We Choose to Think and Believe

Put another way, our subconscious mind accepts whatever we choose to believe. They both mean that what I believe about myself and about life becomes true for me. What you choose to think about yourself and about life becomes true for you. And we have unlimited choices about what we can think. When we know this, then it makes sense to choose “Everyone is always helpful,” rather than “People are out to get me.”

The Point of Power Is Always in the Present Moment

All the events you have experienced in your lifetime up to this moment have been created by your thoughts and beliefs you have held in the past. They were created by the thoughts and words you used yesterday, last week, last month, last year, 10, 20, 30, 40, or more years ago, depending on how old you are.

However, that is your past. It is over and done with. What is important in this moment is what you are choosing to think and believe and say right now. For these thoughts and words will create your future. Your point of power is in the present moment and is forming the experience of tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, and so on.

You might notice what thought you are thinking at this moment. Is it negative or positive? Do you want this thought to be creating your future? Just notice and be aware.

The Only Thing We Are Ever Dealing With Is a Thought, and a Thought Can Be Changed

No matter what the problem is, our experiences are just outer effects of inner thoughts. Even self-hatred is only hating a thought you have about yourself. You have a thought that says, “I’m a bad person.” This thought produces a feeling, and you buy into the feeling. However, if you don’t have the thought, you won’t have the feeling. And thoughts can be changed. Change the thought, and the feeling must go.

This is only to show us where we get many of our beliefs. But let’s not use this information as an excuse to stay stuck in our pain. The past has no power over us. It doesn’t matter how long we have had a negative pattern. The point of power is in the present moment. What a wonderful thing to realize! We can begin to be free in this moment! ###


The above is an excerpt from You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L. Hay (with kind permission of Hay House) Visit Louise Hay's website: http://www.louisehay.com

What is Your Relationship with Change?

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Tuesday September 15, 2009

Hello there everyone and welcome to Tuesday.

There is an old quote, I can't remember who by, that says, "if you are done changing, your done". It seems that many of the conversations I'm having right now, are with some lovely folks who are in resistance mode to change, and wondering why their life is in a garbage can.

I've said it many times here that, "change is the ONLY constant in life". And here today we have a fairly new contributor that helps tons by asking...

What is Your Relationship With Change
by Lori Radun

In our home, my youngest son Ian is working on changing a long-standing behavior. For years, Ian has had difficulty falling asleep on his own. What started as a fear of the dark and noises has turned into a real anxiety about going to bed at night. For a long time, we, as Ian's parents, further enabled the behavior by lying down with him until he fell asleep. Well, now Ian's parents are tired of this habit, and we are trying to bring about some change in the bedtime routine.

My husband and I share the bedtime adventure, and last night was my night to put Ian to bed. We started with a warm bath to relax him, and normally we would read together in bed before going to sleep. But last night Ian lost that privilege because he wasn't being a good listener in the bathtub. So at 8 o'clock I put him in his bed with some books, attempted to tuck him in, and gave him a kiss goodnight.

Our new routine includes keeping the light dimmed in his room and me sitting in the middle of my bed reading in my room. If Ian stays on the left hand side of his bed, he can see straight down the hallway to my bedroom. Ian has the belief that he needs to see us to fall asleep (even though most of us sleep with our eyes closed). Well, let's just say that Ian does not like this new change he is faced with, and he is resisting with everything he has.

Everything I suggest to Ian to make this transition easier, he resists. After an hour of psycho-babble and resistance, I decide to follow his energy. If I don't, I am convinced I will surely explore with anger. So, when he says to me "I can't fall asleep" for the 20th time, I said "Then don't go to sleep. Just stay up all night. Don't close your eyes. Keep them open." Ian resisted that idea too, so guess what he did? He went to sleep!

As human beings, we are faced with change on a regular basis. How we respond to change largely determines how happy and successful we are in life. While our relationship with change varies depending on the change, it is still vitally important that we are consciously aware of our tendencies. By maintaining an awareness of how we are responding to change in our lives, we can actively create the life we desire to live.

Following are five relationships with change. See if you recognize yourself in any of these:

The Avoider
The avoider lives in denial about change. He or she is oblivious to change that needs to take place. When change is presented, the avoider will do whatever is necessary to stay away from change. Denial is a self-protection mechanism that protects us from pain. The avoider sees change as painful, therefore believes that if the pain is ignored, it will eventually go away. It is normally a strong external circumstance or person that shakes the avoider up and propels her to change.

The Resister
The resister may understand that change is needed, but she will fight with change. The resister can come up with a million reasons why ideas won't work. My client recently shared an experience she had with her mother. Her mother is constantly complaining about all the clutter in her home, and not having enough time to deal with it. In an effort to help her mom, my client made several suggestions, including offering her assistance to help her organize and declutter. Every suggestion was met with an excuse, and change did not take place. The resister is gaining more perceived benefit from not making change, and therefore will remain stuck until those benefits are resolved.

The Talker
Similar to the resister, the talker will talk about all the change she wants to make, but rarely backs the talk with action. Until recently, I was a talker when it came to decluttering my house. I would complain about it. I would talk about how important it was to me to simplify and live with less. I would lecture my kids and my husband, but I always found something more important to do. Talking about change is a positive step in the right direction, but without action, change will not take place. Thankfully, I have finally graduated from the talker phase and backed my talk with my walk. (You can follow my decluttering journey on my blog.)

The Fizzler
The fizzler is good at recognizing change that needs to take place. She can talk about what she is going to do, and she will even make a plan to take action. The fizzler will start off on her journey towards change like a sparkler. Full of fire and energy, she jumps wholeheartedly into change. Then the fire starts to die, the energy begins to fizzle, and the sparkler dies out. The fizzler may start and stop with change. Sometimes she's successful and sometimes she gives up.

The Embracer
The embracer wraps her arms around change. She sees change as an opportunity to do things differently and make life better. She is a lover of learning and thrives well with change. Although she recognizes that change is not always easy, she possesses the perseverance to stick with the ups and downs, the emotional strength to manage her mental mindset, and the attitude to make the most of every opportunity.

So what change would you like to make in your life? What unsolicited change is taking place around you? What change would you like to see take place in your family or in this world? And what is your relationship to that change?

Lori Radun, CEC is a certified life coach for moms. To receive her newsletter, other coaching products, and the special report, "155 Things Moms Can do To Raise Great Children," go to Momnificent.

Good, Excellent or Outstanding?

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Monday September 14, 2009

Good day all and welcome to the start of what is shaping up to be a beautiful late summer week.

Yet again, our weekend was filled with learning opportunities that pushed us to new levels of awareness about how some people are destined to live their lives magnificently, and frankly, some choose to make it just painful. Some folks deeply resist the truism that, "our lives are simply our thoughts made manifest". Over this next while I'll be addressing this in much more detail.

As promised on Friday, our delightful good friend, and entrepreneur extraordinaire, Jan Janzen has prepared some goodies that you are absolutely not going to want to miss. On September 23rd (a week on Wednesday) at 7:00pm PST (10:00pm EST) Jan is conducting a F.R.E.E. teleclass on Creating an Amazing Life.

If creating a magnificent, magical and amazing life is something you long for but haven´t been able to achieve on your own, then let Jan help you with proven techniques that have taken her life from miserable to magnificent, from poor to prosperous and from lonely to loved. She promises you…if she can create a very AMAZING life from the mess she was in, so can you!

Click on Jan's image below and get your seat reserved. Don't put it off, do it now and you won't be disappointed

Jan has also contributed today's reader, and you'll be able to assess very quickly if you are...

Good, Excellent, or Outstanding?
by Jan Janzen

If someone were to describe you, would they say you were “good” at what you do, “excellent” at what you do or “outstanding” at what you do? How would you describe yourself?

If you´re good, you´re probably barely satisfied with your results. If you´re excellent, you may be happy but you are probably still feeling a gap between where you are and where you know you can be. At some level, you´re settling. So if outstanding is where you want to be, what separates the good from the excellent from the outstanding?

Think of somebody who is good at what they do. Maybe the waitress at the restaurant was good. She got the orders straight, she brought you the bill when you asked for it and she even remembered to bring you a refill for your coffee.

Now think of someone who is excellent. Perhaps the car sales person went the extra mile, followed up promptly after you took home the new car, they sent you the thank you card in the mail and even remembered your birthday the following year.

Who do you think of when you think of outstanding? Does someone like Mother Theresa come to mind? What about Nelson Mandela? Warren Buffet? Princess Diana? Oprah Winfrey? Donald Trump? Meryl Streep? Or Michael Jordon? Perhaps Tiger Woods comes to mind as outstanding.

What makes these people “outstanding” rather than excellent? What gives them the edge that sets them apart and makes them stand out in many people´s eyes?

First, they all have a gift that they have used fully. Mother Theresa and Princess Diana both extensively utilized their beautiful gifts of compassion and caring. Oprah Winfrey is the hugely successful television host she is, because she is a poster child for using a wonderful gift of encouragement. Business men like Warren Buffet and Donald Trump have a gift of leadership and visioning that has made them billionaires and set them worlds apart from the average business person.

Second, we can look at every outstanding athlete, movie actress, philanthropist, business person, author or social entrepreneur and see that they have given life all they´ve got. They haven´t wimped out, decided it was too hard, or backed down in the face of challenges. These outstanding men and women haven´t become victims or felt sorry for themselves through losses or hardships.

Third, they put their heart and soul into life. They breathed their passion for life into every act, every decision and every thought. They didn´t settle for 99% or even 99.9%. It was 100% and nothing less. Defeat was never in their vocabulary. Quitting was never a choice. Being outstanding was the very least they could do with their gifts.

What about you? Could you be outstanding in some area of your life? Could you release the unlimited potential within you, the fiery passion for life and combine it with a focus that was sharper than an eagle? You have gifts inside of you that are probably screaming to come out and play more fully in your life.

Imagine how exciting it would be to feel the deepest satisfaction at the very core of your being that you had gone above and beyond, that you had lived life to the fullest, that you had expended everything you were divinely gifted to make this world a better place. How would your life change if you went from good to excellent to outstanding?

Why not find out?

Jan Janzen is an entrepreneur of 28 years, a coach, healer and author of two books and 10 CDs to help entrepreneurs grow personally and professionally.

Go right now and register for Jan's teleclass and learn how to Create Your Amazing Life! 5 simple ways to have more money, less stress and more fun in your life!


You can also visit Jan at www.janjanzen.com

Why You Should Be Going Organic!

note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Friday September 11, 2009

Good day folks and welcome to the end of the week.

We've had a ton of interesting experiences this week here at The Wealthy Attitude. Our personal develoment product provider Polaris Media Group has launched some absolutely amazing products that are destined to take us well into the next decade in a very grand manner.

You can find out what this could mean to you, and your future, by purchasing a terrific DVD that they have just released, and, in true Scottish form, you can get a $5 dollar discount right here. Just go to http://www.knowforyourself.com/ use product code 117656 and you can get the DVD for just $25. Now that's the deal of the week and you should jump all over it.

As you are well aware, on Friday we present to you a video for your consideration, and today is no different. And as you are equally aware, we here are strong advocates for lightening up our footprint on our planet, moving to sustainable and conscious community's, and living a healthier lifestyle. It's one of the reasons for our recent move to British Columbia's Okanagan Valley.

Today's video offering is destined to get you thinking very seriously about how you live, and more importantly how your children, and grand-children will be affected by your decisions about your future. It's only seven minutes long, has some sub-titles, and will provide you with some things to consider over the weekend. And, as always, we invite your feedback in whatever manner you choose. Let's get some chat going about this. Please consider...

Why You Should Be Going Organic

Have an outstanding weekend.

We'll see you on Monday.

Take care,

~peter~

Not A Perfect Song!

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for midday September 10, 2009

A new friend, I recently discovered, is not only an all around good guy, fixer extraordinaire, budding social diplomat, but also an aspiring singer-songwriter. I found this out as he was telling me about his wife's upcoming birthday celebration, and that he was writing her a new song.

He shared with me a great lesson. He had been struggling somewhat in writing the "perfect song" for how he felt about his bride, when he himself had a breakthrough moment. It wasn't the "perfect song" his wife wanted, it was just for him to sing for her.

Enjoy Randy Zarr as he sings for his wife....

Not A Perfect Song

Pursue the Means - Live The Dreams

The Importance of Pausing

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Thursday September 10, 2009

Hello everyone and welcome to a beautiful late summer Thursday.

Last evening I had the pleasure of a tour of Summerhill Pyramid Winery here in Kelowna and meeting its owner and visionary founder Stephen Cipes. Summerhill Winery is Canada's largest organic vineyard and most visited winery. The product, I can tell you personally is exceptional, and highly worthy of your company when you decide to come and visit with us in this corner of paradise.

The "stand out" thing for me about the evening though, was not the wine, it was watching the owner, Stephen. He is clearly a man of vision to have created this diamond here in the Okanagan Valley. During our tour I got to visit his amazing pyramid that is right there in the vineyard. What happened inside took me by a very pleasant surprise.

Stephen requested that we take a moment of quiet meditation to think about the date o9-09-09, and to send out our intentions for the future into Universal consciousness. The effect for me, in what is clearly a sacred place, was profound.

Today's reader sprang from the files when I got back to my desk. This delightful new contributor brought more meaning about last evening as she reflects on.....

The Importance of Pausing
by Kristina Jansz

Imagine reading a book in which there are no commas or periods. Page after page, all the words run together making it near impossible to decipher the intended meaning.

Imagine listening to a piece of music that doesn't have any rests in it. What you'd experience is a cacophony of meaningless noise.

Imagine getting into a car and driving it from point A to point B. At your start point you press the accelerator to the floor and, without stopping at stop signs or traffic lights, you don't release your foot until you reach point B. This action will cause chaos and destruction to you and those around you.

The commas and periods in written word and the rests in music are what give context and meaning to these forms of expressions. Using the breaks while driving allows you to interact with others respectfully and safely on the road. All of these are examples of Pausing and they create order out of chaos.

In the same way, taking time out to Pause brings meaning to the energy you output in your life.

• Pausing and being fully present in the moment gives deeper meaning to your actions.
• Pausing before reacting to another greatly enhancing meaningful, respectful communication.
• Pausing and turning your attention inwards helps you re-center yourself so that you can hear your truth. It allows you to reconnect with your emotional center of gravity.

Pausing also allows you to press that internal reset button and reconnect with the place within where your mind, body, heart and soul meet. From this point of being centered you can then go out to meet your day, week, challenges.

Now, will it be possible for you to go from living at break-neck speed to being fully present in every single moment, right away? Probably not, however small steps repeated consistently over time generate extraordinary, long lasting change and that's something that is achievable!

So, take time out to Pause as often as you can during the course of a day. Right now it may only be for a few seconds at a time, and that's okay. Make it your goal to become fully present in the moment, for instance while sipping your morning coffee or sitting at a traffic light or speaking with your child. Be in this moment as if nothing else in the Universe exists but this moment.

Ask your senses to shake off their drowsiness and fully experience everything that is happening. Challenge yourself to discover beauty in each of these moments. Dare yourself to find something for which you are truly grateful. In doing so, you will greatly increase the value and meaning of each moment you're living and ultimately the quality of your life.

Kristina Jansz, Life-Skills Trainer, Writer and Speaker works in Barrie, Ontario, Canada and offers Personal Empowerment Programs, Workshops and Talks. For more information visit Kristina Jansz.com. Contact information: phone 705 794-9900, email

Create An Amazing Life

A mid-day note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Wednesday September 9, 2009

Hello again all on this very fine Wednesday. I have something special to bring to your attention.

Our very good friend Jan Janzen has just launched an amazing new program that combines her years of study, observations, practices, and commitment into a mechanism that will unquestionably take you where you've always dreamed of going. You personal and business life is about to take a giant leap forward on September 23rd 2009.

Click on the image below and get yourself registered and you will love learning....

How to Create an Amazing Life

Pursue the Means - Live The Dreams