The Power of Surrender

A note from: peter@thewealthyattitude.com

Hello and welcome to the first day of a brand spanking new month.

Now, you know what question I’m going to ask!

We are now a full ¼ of 2008 completed. How are you doing with your goals and intentions for the year? Are you right on track? If not, why not?

What do you need to adjust right now to make sure you fulfill the promise to yourself?

I was having a chat with a good friend of mine yesterday about “monkey chatter.” You know, that noise that goes on in our head, yes, the one we are responsible for.

What we discovered was that it is that “voice” that keeps us from experiencing all of the magic of living by design. It is that“voice” that tells us we are not worthy, and that our dreams are unrealistic, and that people will think we are strange if we separate ourselves from the “herd”.

The solution we came up with is really quite simple. Make the“external chatter” louder than the “internal chatter”. The“external chatter” can be made up of many of the hundreds of personal growth CD programs, DVD programs, internet webcasts, personal development books, affirming dialogue, meditation, relaxing, and surrendering our obsessive need to control everything.

Good ideas, yes?

Today’s offering is a neat place to start.

The Power of Surrender

By Helene Rothschild

John called me in desperation. The forty-three-year-old telemarketer was going to be evicted from his apartment because he had not paid his rent. John was interviewed for a job but had not heard from the company. Needless to say, he felt powerless and terrified.

I listened to his difficult situation with compassion. Then I said to my client, "John, I suggest that you lie down with your feet apart and palms facing the ceiling in an open, surrender position. Then say from your heart, I surrender to my spirit, to my higher self. Thank you for the perfect job and money to pay my rent. I am grateful!" John expressed some doubts if this would work, but in his state he was ready to try anything.

The next day, John called and said in an excited voice, "It worked, Helene! Last night I did what you suggested, and this morning I received a job offer. Based on the employment opportunity, my landlord was willing to let me stay in my apartment. Thank you so much!!! I never realized that surrender is so powerful!"

How can surrender be related to power? We often view surrender as a weakness. Most people would imagine a picture of a defeated person or an army walking forward with heads down, waving a white flag toward the enemy, and hoping that they will live and not be too severely punished for their actions. It means, in these scenarios, hopelessness, a giving up of their stand - their desires of having things the way they wanted them to be.

Surrender is usually associated with feeling powerless and very sad for losing or giving up. It also brings up fears of the unknown and of not being in control of our destiny, as it may be subject to the whims of the winners. This is a grim picture to burn away from your mind, so that you can clear the slate and be open to a new image - to new possibilities.

The surrender we are now going to explore comes from a humble mind that realizes it cannot figure out, plan, know, or do everything. Our human part is also called our personality. It consists of our mind, body, and emotions. It is fear and love-based.

Our fourth part is our higher self. This spiritual part is unlimited and only comes from love, wisdom, trust, and faith. One way we connect with this all-knowing, all-powerful part is by listening to our intuition. (By the way, men also have intuition even though it is considered a feminine skill. It comes with the human package.)

After our personality has tried everything logical to find a job, housing, relationship, etc., we can surrender to our higher self and go beyond the mind. Or, we can surrender to that powerful part of us to begin with. I found the latter to be much easier and more fun.

For example, when I want to find a place to live, I lie down in surrender position and I say from my higher self, who comes from trust and faith, "Thank you for finding me the perfect place to live. I am grateful!"

Then I follow my intuition to know what my mind, body, and emotions can do to help me locate my perfect home. For example, I intuitively know when to buy the newspaper, which ad to respond to, or where to post my ad. Or, I will get the message to go to a party and meet someone who is renting his or her home.

As you can see, to truly surrender is to replace fears and doubts with trust and faith. It means expressing what you desire and having a knowing that the universe supports you, that you are truly powerful, and you have all the answers inside of you. It means becoming very still, focusing inward, and listening to your inner voice either through a gut feeling, softly spoken words, or a vision.

As John said, "I never realized that surrender is so powerful." I never did either until I tried it myself. It has worked for me many times, and the power of surrendering to my higher self has been amazing. It can be for you too!

By Helene Rothschild, MS, MA, MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, intuitive counselor, speaker, and author of the Amazon best selling book, "All You Need Is HART!" She offers transformational, international phone sessions, teleclasses, books, e-books, MP3 audios, tapes, and a free newsletter, MP3 audio and e-book from her site: Love Yourself to Peace

Are You Worthy of Worthiness?

by Ellie Walsh
http://LivingTheLawOfAttraction.com

A friend of mine was telling me a conversation she had about finances — the person said to her - well if you feel stuck - it is probably about feeling unworthy.

This conversation was about 1 month ago and at that time it did not ring any bells for my friend.

But now 1 month later she is aware of this lurking unworthiness - she can actually feel it physically in her body.

"….it’s this core feeling..I can actually feel it physically lodged so deep in the place between my belly button and rib cage. I can feel it’s physical form (like an upside down pyramid, with the base being on my skin surface and the point going way deep. Every day, I say over and over "I am ready to give up this un worthy crap and ready to allow in the things I have been wanting my whole life."So that’s what I am working on getting rid of. I’ve been asking for help with it, every night and every day, hoping I’ll get some insight on how to get it out……….

First I must say - I identify with this - I have been physically affected by my so-called issues. I have dealt / struggled with my so-called core issues….

So what is the unworthiness stuff? Is it a core issue? What is a core issue?

From what I have seen with myself and the people I work with - worthiness / unworthiness is probably behind all so-called issues. Fear, insecurity, anger, depression — on the most naked level really goes down to that feeling of not being worthy.

Where does this unworthiness come from?

I’m going to say it usually come from childhood. While children are the most connected they are also the most vulnerable to other people’s opinions. Even people who had extremely positive and uplifting parents can end up dealing with this — as society in general does not really uplift - instead it tells you what you can’t do.

Kids being told what they can’t do - many times will eventually internalize this as they are not good enough - to do! How many times do I hear adults tell kids - you can’t do this - you can’t do that - if you do this you will get hurt….. Even if someone is explaining you can’t do it because of —- still it can end up becoming personal…. it can end up being internalized as - I’m not good enough = I’m not worthy.

And what about core issues? What is a core issue? Is there such a thing as a core issue?

I have seen from my own experience that most of my so-called issues were interrelated. And I have found that at the bottom of these things it was usually a self worth / self esteem / worthiness issue.

So why not just go right to the source and clean it up once and for all?

I don’t know if that is always possible - as I have found things popped up at different times. And that feeling of getting to the bottom of it all — isn’t that really saying that I am broken and I need to be fixed?

Hmmmm - so let’s stay in Law of Attraction - How does that idea of being broken and needing to be fixed feel? And so what are you then vibrating? —> Broken and need fixing - - Hmmm and what does that vibration bring?

Right here is the reason I banged my head against the wall for many years. I was stuck in this arena of thinking I was broken - of needing to be fixed! I was going to deal with all my issues - I was going to resolve them all …….. and then…… I would be OK!! Then I would be Worthy!

It didn’t work - - Well actually it worked perfectly according to Law of Attraction - I continually felt like I was broke - I continually had issues to deal with - I continually was chasing the core issue!

Years ago - a wise person told me — "put your issues up on the shelf and leave them there - don’t take any of them down off the shelf. When the time is right for you to deal with them - they will fall off the shelf and hit you in the head and will have to deal with it."

That was good advice for me then - and when I followed it my life was truly easier, smoother, more joyful.

Then I went a step further ….. I threw the shelf out!

That’s right - I realized as long as I continued to see me with having issues - I was going to continue to have issues. How could I see myself as worthy - if I felt I had core issues to work on - if I felt I was still broken?

I finally got it - why did I beat myself up - make myself crazy trying to fix me - why did I see me as broken? Yet… if a friend of mine told me she was broken - I would not agree with her - I would tell her or him their good qualities - I would certainly not beat them up!

I was never going to feel worthy until - - I Loved Me….. until - - I Loved Me Unconditionally!

So - I threw out my issue shelf and I stopped talking about what was wrong with me. I stopped saying things like "I’m going to get rid of this issue or I am going to change this character defect" — Those statements are like saying "I’m going to stop thinking about Pink Elephants" — Now you are thinking about - - - - Pink Elephants!

You can’t deemphasize something - - the minute you put your attention on it - - your attention is on it - even though you are saying well I am putting my attention on not putting my attention on it - - That is Attention!!

You can not say No to something and have it go away - - No is putting your attention on it… The Universe responds to your vibration.

Today I talk about the things I want - I talk about my good qualities - I talk about the good qualities of others. I put my emphasis on those good qualities knowing the Universe will respond to that vibration.

I started out small - I was not able to jump right into "I am a worthy wonderful person" - - I did not fully believe that at first. I needed to take it in smaller steps. Each person needs to find the words that are right for them - and you will know what is right for you - by how you feel.

Today I am truly able to say "I Love Me" - I do believe I am a Magnificent Worthy Being….

And I believe You too, are a Worthy Magnificent Blessed Being!

Ellie