What We Give Out, We Get Back

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Tuesday November 10, 2009

Hello there all and welcome to Tuesday. My thanks to all who sent your responses about yesterday's reader. You are an insightful bunch indeed.

We're continuing the theme somewhat today with one of our very favorite ladies. Louise certainly does know all about...

What We Give Out, We Get Back
by Louise Hay

What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us. I believe that everyone, myself included, is responsible for everything in our lives, the best and the worst. Every thought we think is creating our future. Each one of us creates our experiences by our thoughts and our feelings. The thoughts we think and the words we speak create our experiences.

We create the situations, and then we give our power away by blaming the other person for our frustration. No person, no place, and no thing has any power over us, for “we” are the only thinkers in it. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives.

Which of these statements sounds like you?
“People are out to get me.”
“Everyone is always helpful.”
Each one of these beliefs will create quite different experiences.

What we believe about ourselves and about life becomes true for us.

The Universe Totally Supports Us in Every Thought We Choose to Think and Believe

Put another way, our subconscious mind accepts whatever we choose to believe. They both mean that what I believe about myself and about life becomes true for me. What you choose to think about yourself and about life becomes true for you. And we have unlimited choices about what we can think. When we know this, then it makes sense to choose “Everyone is always helpful,” rather than “People are out to get me.”

The Point of Power Is Always in the Present Moment

All the events you have experienced in your lifetime up to this moment have been created by your thoughts and beliefs you have held in the past. They were created by the thoughts and words you used yesterday, last week, last month, last year, 10, 20, 30, 40, or more years ago, depending on how old you are.

However, that is your past. It is over and done with. What is important in this moment is what you are choosing to think and believe and say right now. For these thoughts and words will create your future. Your point of power is in the present moment and is forming the experience of tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, and so on.

You might notice what thought you are thinking at this moment. Is it negative or positive? Do you want this thought to be creating your future? Just notice and be aware.

The Only Thing We Are Ever Dealing With Is a Thought, and a Thought Can Be Changed

No matter what the problem is, our experiences are just outer effects of inner thoughts. Even self-hatred is only hating a thought you have about yourself. You have a thought that says, “I’m a bad person.” This thought produces a feeling, and you buy into the feeling. However, if you don’t have the thought, you won’t have the feeling. And thoughts can be changed. Change the thought, and the feeling must go.

This is only to show us where we get many of our beliefs. But let’s not use this information as an excuse to stay stuck in our pain. The past has no power over us. It doesn’t matter how long we have had a negative pattern. The point of power is in the present moment. What a wonderful thing to realize! We can begin to be free in this moment!


The above is an excerpt from You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L. Hay (with kind permission of Hay House)

Visit Louise Hay's website: http://www.louisehay.com

One of the Deadliest Sentences You Can Say

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Monday November 9, 2009

Good day all and welcome to a brand new week, and boy what a week it is destined to be.

This is "Remembrance Week" and we'll be honoring our hero's in appropriate fashion on Wednesday.

There is also another reason that we may indeed be remembering this week. The World's economic engines are about to take on somewhat of a "sputtering" sound as the strain of the recent adjustments really start to show their true effect. It is going to be a time when folks like you and I are going to have to marshal all of our ingenuity to ensure that our futures will be secure. Much more to come on this one shortly.

Today we are bringing to your attention something that we have trumpeted here for years, and that is: "What you allow out of your mouth, you end up living". Our dear friend Brad shares with us the impact of...

One of the Deadliest Sentences You Can Say
by Brad Swift

I heard it again last week. In fact, as a professional life coach I've heard it way too often. Most recently I heard it from a friend of one of my family members. I believe it's one of deadliest sentence you can say is: "That's just the way I am, I can't help it."

The friend was sharing how hard it is to open up to people and to share his feelings. He's had a rough early life and it's left emotional scars. I'm sure you know of others who have had difficult times especially in their childhood years that may take years to heal and much effort as well.

But here's why I consider "That's just the way I am, I can't help it," to be one of the deadliest sentences you can say -- because it 'sentences' the person to a life of the same way of being that hasn't worked for them up to that point.

Sure, up to this point I can get and really empathize with this young person that his challenging past has made it hard for him to open his heart and share himself...but please let's not condemn ourselves to a lifetime sentence of such a condition. Relating to yourself in this way cuts out all possibility for you to grow, develop and transform.

How an Introverted Vet Became a Coach, Writer and Public Speaker
If any of you had known me during many of my years as a veterinarian, you would have sworn that I was doomed to be a reclusive, introverted, struggling practitioner for the rest of my life.

I was scared -- not of the animals, my patients -- I loved them and could totally relate to them. No, I was terrified of the Homo Sapiens at the other end of the leashes -- my clients -- you know the ones with the check books and credit cards who paid the vet bills. No wonder I struggled to make payroll many weeks.

If someone had told me back then that I would eventually be speaking to hundred of people at a time about life purpose, or coaching highly successful people in how to overcome burnout and overwhelm, or be on dozens of radio talk shows and television programs sharing about living a more purposeful and meaningful life... well, I would have laughed and known they were crazy.

But that's the power of the transformation that's available when people tap into the passion that comes with knowing their life purpose with crystal clarity. It has the power to reshape your life in very positive and purposeful ways.

Oh, it's not that the fear and lack (as in "I'm not good enough" type lack) doesn't rise up up again sometimes to invite me back to being an introvert. Even as I write this I can hear it say, "How dare you set yourself up as an example like this. People will think you're bragging on yourself." Okay, think what you think. It's just the example that came to me and it's all true, so there.

Declare a Mis-Trial and Give Yourself a New Sentence
You aren't stuck with any self-limiting belief like this. Sure, you may have found it hard, difficult, or even impossible to open up your heart and share yourself... in the past, but remember we live in the NOW. At any given moment we can make a new choice. Small baby steps lead to larger adult steps.

It could start by reframing the 'deadly sentence' to something like this: "I know in the past I've not been able or willing to share my thoughts or feelings with others, and having realized that, I am now asking for your support in helping me to become more open and available."

As unique sparks of the Divine, we're meant to grow, develop and transform throughout our lives. Don't sentence yourself to anything less than a life on purpose.

Dr. W. Bradford Swift is Founder of the Life On Purpose Institute, and author of Life On Purpose: 6 Passages to an Inspired Life. The Institute's vision is: a world on purpose, with people living lives of purposeful, passionate and playful service, of mindful abundance balanced with simplicity, and spiritual serenity.

Extraordinary Musical Instrument

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Friday November 6, 2009

Good day all and welcome to the weeks end.

We've had an awesome week here with getting to really understand the power of "social media" and how it impacts our lives. All grand stuff to be sure.

To wrap up the week in our usual video fashion I thought we'd do something a tad different and celebrate ingenuity in a musical fashion.

This incredible machine was built as a collaborative effort between the Robert M. Trammell Music Conservatory and the Sharon Wick School of Engineering at the University of Iowa. Amazingly, 97% of the machines components came from John Deere Industries and Irrigation Equipment of Bancroft, Iowa. Yes, farm equipment.

It took the team a combined 13,029 hours of set-up, alignment, calibration, and tuning before filming this video but as you can see, it was WELL worth the effort. It is now on display in the Matthew Gerhard Alumni Hall at the University and is already slated to be donated to the Smithsonian.

This is almost unbelievable. See how all of the balls wind up in catcher cones.

Have a wonder-full weekend.

See you on Monday.

Take care,

~peter~

The Ultimate Social Media Etiquette Handbook

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Thursday November 5, 2009

Hi there all and please accept my apologies for the not having the reader you were expecting. We were notified earlier that we did not have the appropriate permissions to bring you the article in our format.

Tamar has given permission to read it on this site. You'll love the piece and you'll find it here.

The Ultimate Social Media Etiquette Handbook

I like this writer and feel she's worth you following.

Take care all.

~peter~

David & Goliath and Social Media Marketing

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Wednesday November 4, 2009

Good day there all and welcome to the midweek point.

I must confess, the whole issue of "social media" got me hugely confused at the outset. I like to consider myself as an open-minded, adventurist gut of fellow, but this entire thing got me a tad irritated.

It took me a little while to work out that it was my feeling of "smallness" that was causing the irritation. I felt that my little initiative here at The Wealthy Attitude was minuscule compared to what I was seeing going on in the Internet.

It was then that I realized, hold on Peter boy, the Internet really is a level playing field. That was the turning point and I then saw "social media" in a whole new light. Now I understood the concept of...

David & Goliath and Social Media Marketing
by Daniel D.

The epic tale of the ultimate upset is playing out online with countless small businesses leveraging the marketing power of social media. How are entrepreneurs doing this? Well, the challenge with social media lies in quantifying return on investment. Here, the investment is primarily time and effort since the bulk of social networking applications are free. The following outlines the factors that support how small businesses can exploit online media to gain a competitive advantage over large companies.

Personality - The voice of the company that filters through to social media is all too often devoid of personality. Research shows that people connect people, not gray text.

Censorship - There virtually is no censorship when it comes to social media. Small business owners don't have to worry about being tied up through layers of social media compliance. Larger companies, by contrast, can be subject to legal approval concerning every blog post or tweet, making it harder to facilitate real-time conversations.

Local Connection - Small businesses can tap into local events, traditions and communities much more easily due to their shared experience with the people. Once again, people would rather bond with an actual person present at relevant local events.

Implementation - Online resources today allow for the quickest implementation when breaking news occurs. Situations like these calls necessitate quick action when timing is everything. The saying "the early bird gets the worm" holds solid validation as many in the general public desire the fastest reporting of news. This advantage will convert more followers into customers.

Audience - The small business owner only needs to connect with hundreds or perhaps thousands, not hundreds OF thousands or millions. Doing this yeah yield significant productivity for the small business who often seeking to zero in on a more focused target market.

As a small business entrepreneur you no longer have to remain puzzled about social media's distinct value for the small guy out there. You potentially have the huge advantage to trump larger corporations in reaching your desired customers.

Daniel D. is an avid writer on various internet marketing topics and is the founder of the Doctor DubLi Team. He creates innovative marketing tools for novice and aspiring networkers worldwide from his office in Suburban Detroit. Learn more about his business and how his team is seeing success by integrating social media and DubLi marketing

The Uniqueness of Social Media

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Tuesday November 3, 2009

Good day all and Happy Tuesday to you.

Thanks to all who shared your "reactions" to our Halloween picture yesterday. :-))

We continue today with our theme of understanding social media. Like it or not folks, social media is here to stay, and today you'll learn a bit more about...

The Uniqueness of Social Media
by Frank F. Morgan

Wow the social media sites today have proven to be not only social but viral business. With the right strategies these sites can bring about enormous success for you, the user. However, if used wrong they will be nothing more than a dead end. We have all heard of these sites: Facebook, MySpace and Twitter (there are many more and more cropping up all the time), but collectively we use these sites to brand ourselves in that it allows us to socialize with people who for the most part think like we do.

To be most effective in your efforts to socialize you have to find like minded people for example twitter has a branch called twellow, this can be a tool that you use to find like minded people. So just starting out, as opposed to just trying to flood the market with useless garbage,redefine yourself. Meaning make yourself more presentable. Have objectives,provide resources especially if using these media sites for promotion of your marketing agenda. Let the community know that you have something valuable to offer.

Don't be afraid to share information,share ideas offer suggestions that may have worked for you. If you actually have some expertise in a certain area use that to stimulate a conversation with the masses. Do this enough and you will start to acquire a following,which is ultimately what you are after. Again this must be done consistently and often, we all know a one hit wonder does not last long. As my son told me once "slow and steady wins the race".

Contrary to what so many people think, these social sites are not the place for selling products,information or services. Almost daily I delete from my e-mail hordes of social hits trying to sell me something. Each time I say to myself, wow guys think about what you are doing, let me decide how and when I wish to venture off to a particular site or product. Yes I am watching my sites reading what things are posted,saving those that are interesting and really following those that seem to really have their act together. These that I follow with utmost reverence are those that are not trying to sell me anything. Ironically, although they are not trying to, they have indeed perked my interest enough to see exactly what they are doing.

Remember the social sites will only get more used as time progresses. A true entrepreneur will capitalize on the one true statement "you can catch more flies with honey",this person will be online filling the social sites with value,entertainment,stimulating content, not sales messages. Good luck to all.

Social Media Will Change Your Business

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Monday November 2, 2009

Good day everyone and welcome to a shiny brand new week.

I do sincerely hope that you had a hot of a Halloween weekend. Here in this corner of wonderland we had a valley full of ghouls and goblins making their merry way through an entire myriad of fantasy lands.

We had the fun of attending a couple of totally outrageous events that clearly brought out the imaginative side of people. Here's what we looked like as Hagatha and Swampy. Oh, I'm the "Pretty One". :-))

Needless to say, the weekend was a ton of fun.

Now dear friends, on with the subject of the week. Social Media.

Like it or not, Social Media is here to stay, and it certainly does impact you, and your business.

This week we're going to bring forward some highly informative readers on the subject, and we feel strongly that you'll want to participate in the dialogue. We certainly believe that you'll want to know how...

Social Media Will Change Your Business
by Stephen Baker and Heather Green

It's time for a frank talk. And no, it can't wait. We know, we know: Most of you are sick to death of blogs. Don't even want to hear about these millions of online journals that link together into a vast network. And yes, there's plenty out there not to like. Self-obsession, politics of hate, and the same hunger for fame that has people lining up to trade punches on The Jerry Springer Show. Name just about anything that's sick in our society today, and it's on parade in the blogs. On lots of them, even the writing stinks.

Go ahead and bellyache about blogs. But you cannot afford to close your eyes to them, because they're simply the most explosive outbreak in the information world since the Internet itself. And they're going to shake up just about every business—including yours. It doesn't matter whether you're shipping paper clips, pork bellies, or videos of Britney in a bikini, blogs are a phenomenon that you cannot ignore, postpone, or delegate. Given the changes barreling down upon us, blogs are not a business elective. They're a prerequisite. (And yes, that goes for us, too.)

There's a little problem, though. Many of you don't visit blogs—or haven't since blogs became a sensation in last year's Presidential race. According to a Pew Research Center Survey, only 27% Some newer numbers: According to Forrester, 11.2% of online adults in the U.S. publish a blog at least once a month. Of the same group, 24.8% read a blog and 13.7% comment on a blog at least once a month. The numbers are higher for youths. Of online youths, 20.8% publish a blog, 36.6% read a blog, and 26.4% comment on a blog at least once a month. But I suspect the numbers are unreliable because many mainstream sites with millions of readers—celebrity site TMZ and gadget sites like Gizmodo—are actually blogs. But are all the readers aware of this? I doubt it. This is the blurring of the blog/mainstream divide, a theme we'll see again and again in these revisions. of Internet users in America now bother to read them. So we're going to take you into the world of blogs by delivering this story—call it Blogs 101 for businesses—in the style of a blog. We're even sprinkling it with links. These are underlined words that, when clicked, carry readers of this story's online version to another Web page. This all may make for a strange experience, but it's the closest we can come to reaching out from the page, grabbing you by the collar, and shaking you into action.

First, a few numbers. There are some 9 million blogs out there, Yes, there were 9 million, but how many of them were active? Probably only a fraction. In early 2008, says Technorati Chairman David Sifry, the search company indexes 112 million blogs, with 120,000 new ones popping up each day. But only 11% of these blogs, he says, have posted within the past two months. That means the active universe is closer to 13 million blogs. Kevin Burton, CEO of FeedBlog, argues that the number should be lower, from 2 million to 4 million blogs. with 40,000 new ones popping up each day. Some discuss poetry, others constitutional law. And, yes, many are plain silly. "Mommy tells me it may rain today. Oh Yucky Dee Doo," reads only one April Posting. Let's assume that 99.9% are equally off point. What we didn't see in early 2005 was the advent of the spam blog. These blogs, produced automatically, are designed to show up in search results and to attract Google advertisements known as Adsense. Sifry estimates that fully 99% of the blog posts reaching search engines are spam. So what? That leaves some 40 new ones every day that could be talking about your business, engaging your employees, or leaking those merger discussions you thought were hush-hush.

Give the paranoids their due. The overwhelming majority of the information the world spews out every day is digital—photos from camera phones, PowerPoint presentations, government filings, billions and billions of e-mails, even digital phone messages. With a couple of clicks, every one of these items can be broadcast into the blogosphere by anyone with an Internet hookup—or even a cell phone. If it's scandalous, a poisonous e-mail from a CEO, for example, or torture pictures from a prison camp, others link to it in a flash. And here's the killer: Blog posts linger on the Web forever.

Yet not all the news is scary. Ideas circulate as fast as scandal. Potential customers are out there, sniffing around for deals and partners. While you may be putting it off, you can bet that your competitors are exploring ways to harvest new ideas from blogs, sprinkle ads into them, and yes, find out what you and other competitors are up to.

More tomorrow.