Achieving Power Through People

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Thursday March 5 2009

Good day there everyone and welcome to this fine Thursday.

And yes, Spring is still on its steady march towards us. I so can't wait to get into shorts and shed the weight of winter's clothing. Bring it on!

I was chatting with a reader yesterday who is enjoying the theme of the week. She is one of the intrepid small percentage of the population who truly does embody the spirit of taking 100% responsibility for her entire life experience. I was lifted even higher for the time I spent of the phone with her. She is truly a people person, and she inspired me to share today's offering with you.

Achieving Power Through People

Do you know someone who is naturally friendly? When you put him inside a room of strangers, he'll be a friend to almost everyone in no time!

We call such person as a people-person. This person is unbelievably nice and charismatic that he or she can charm anyone into doing anything.

A socially empowered person achieves so much greatness because of the people that catapult him to success. He earns the trust and support of the people. He can do anything with the plethora of people behind him. All because he knows how to maximize his social potential!

Here are some tips that can help you become a people person:

1) Be genuine.
Hypocrisy can drag you down. Be genuinely nice and interested in people. Once people perceive you as Mr. Hypocrite with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye to self-empowerment.

2) Be a great listener!
To earn the love and trust of people, listen to their problems and sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if every word matters. You earn brownie points when they consider you their confidante.

3) Laugh aloud.
This means finding humor in things and not being too darn serious. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually attracts success.

4) Don't forget yourself.
In the process of fluttering around like a social butterfly, you might forget yourself and allow everyone to push you around. Remember to love and value yourself before anyone else. If you deem yourself respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not trample on you.

5) Do random acts of kindness.
You don't have to do exactly John Rockefeller did and blow your savings to charity. Little acts of kindness matters most. This can be a simple act of giving someone a surprise card or helping an elderly cross the street.

6) Contact your old friends.
Before, contact with friends was limited but thanks to technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by flipping your yearbook and look for great people whom you want to communicate with again. Adding these old friends to your roster of support peers will surely make you feel good all over.

7) Develop your personality.
Are you grouchy, grumpy, and generally morose? You can't go through life like that! Get rid of bad traits and habits that perpetually hamper your growth. Really, who wants a grouchy friend anyway?

8) Be confident.
Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be confident, not arrogant.

9) Practice control.
When angry, don't snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Take control of the situation and transform your anger into something more productive.

10) Nurture your relationships.
Your relationship with your family, friends, and significant others are too precious to neglect. Go out and have fun with them. Do things with them. Happiness will never leave your side as long as the people who matter most are close to you.

Self-empowerment can help you become a better and more lovable person. People know that they can turn on you anytime and trust that you can count on their support.

It's a win-win situation!