The Importance of Feeling Safe!

A note from peter@thewealthyattitude.com for Monday February 2 2009

Good day there folks and welcome to the first week of February, and for us it's Procrastination Week.

No, it's not a celebration of "procrastination", but a series of offerings from our good friend Jan Janzen on the subjects that hold so many people back from experiencing a fully joyous life. Jan generously offered her substantial expertise with a collection written exclusively for the subscribers here at the "Daily Reader".

Definition of "Procrastination" - the act of procrastinating; putting off or delaying or defering an action to a later time.

So, have you done it, what has it cost you, what have you missed, what would your life be like if you hadn't done it? All very important questions, and what will undoubtedly be addressed this week in a way that only Jan Janzen can.

So Let's get right to: Procrastination Week Day 1.

The Importance of Feeling Safe

by Jan Janzen

Do New Year Resolutions seem a lifetime ago? If writing down your goals, pledging your commitment to prosperity, weight releasing, a new career or a better relationship has gone by the wayside, then know it may be considered “typical” and “normal”, but as a Wealthy Attitude Reader, it´s NOT where you want to be.

So what went wrong? Why for all your determination, commitment and desire did you fall off the straight and narrow? Here are a few reasons why.

1. What you set as goals does not feel “safe” as a subconscious level.
2. You are not “emotional” enough about what you want.
3. You lack clarity.
4. There are conflicting files in the subconscious mind that are sabotaging you.
5. Your affirmations do not resonate with you.

Safety is key to what I call “your team”. That team comprised of your body, soul, spirit, conscious mind and subconscious mind will only act if you feel safe. If you doubt this, then think about putting your hand on a hot stove, jumping off a cliff or walking in the dark alone. You feel uncomfortable, scared and there is tremendous resistance to doing it. You are going against what your team wants to do.

Safety is paramount and when you understand this one key point, everything in your life can change. Here´s an example:

Let´s say that one of your New Year Resolutions was to lose 25 pounds. You started on the diet, began to exercise and started to eat healthier. After what I just said, you would think that all of those things would feel safe! So what´s the problem?

What if you have a program running in your subconscious mind that fat is wealthy and skinny is poor? Is that possible? Absolutely! Think of all the images on television alone that have shown you poor people starving to death. It is not typical that wealthy people are starving. Therefore, the file in the subconscious mind will link wealth to fat and poverty to skinny. Which is safer? Wealth or poverty? It may be wealth in your case (not every case however) and you will not lose the weight because safety to you means that you need to be wealthy which means… you need to be fat.

You may have another program running that has you convinced at a cellular level that food will run out. I have worked with many clients that have a tremendous fear they are going to starve to death, go hungry or be a bag lady. Consequently, the safety mechanism is set to eating NOW while there is food because you just don´t know if there will be food tomorrow. Therefore you continue to eat while you can because that is what feels safe.

If you find yourself doing something you don´t want to do such as eating a fattening food, spending money you don´t have or avoiding a relationship you are really desiring, then ask yourself this question:

What is it about my action that makes me feel safe?

It could be that eating ice cream makes you feel safe because that´s what you were given as a reward for being “good”, (in other words “safe”) as a child. It may be that spending money makes you feel safe because you have a belief that wealth is dangerous, divides families and will make you different enough from your friends that you will lose your precious community. So you are actually looking for ways at a subconscious level to get rid of your money. It may be that you feel safe being out of relationship because you are protecting yourself from hurt or danger by not entering into another one.

We are not simple creatures. The files that are tucked away in the subconscious mind are plentiful and don´t always make sense. They can even be completely contradictory which really adds to the fun of figuring out how to get what we want in life.

Just knowing that you will always act first in conjunction with what feels safe to you will help you identify blocks, responses and reactions to ideas that are new or different. Being wealthy, slim, successful, prosperous or famous will be as elusive as a slippery eel if your team does not feel safe. Create a feeling of safety around anything you desire and you have a much greater chance of achieving it. But there´s more.

Tomorrow we will look at the next reason why your New Year´s Resolutions may have gone by the wayside.

Jan is a “classic” entrepreneur, coach, healer and author of two books including her latest release, Getting off the Merry-Go-Round - How to Create the Life You Want Without the Fear, Doubt and Guilt. You can order her book here: www.nomorefeardoubtandguilt.com